Mark is taking some time off, and so this week, we went back in our records to look at some of the most popular and engaging blogs. “The Silent Dream Killer” ranked right up there in the best of the best. Mark was reflecting he wrote this blog the week his father based away.
The 5 words that kill more dreams, more potential, and more happiness than any other 5 words spoken:
“I don’t feel like it.”
I’m not sure of your dream, yet I suspect for many of you it’s more financial freedom, better health, stronger relationships, and more connectedness with your community. Yet let’s face it, so many times when you are about to start something toward those dreams, the onslaught of excuses flood your mind like water gushing out of a broken pipe.
The theme of these excuses always traces back to the same root: “I don’t feel like it.”
How many times have you said, “I don’t feel like it?” How many times have you listened to that thought, allowing it to alter the course of your actions? What if you could make a different choice?
Here is what I know, “I don’t feel like it” is a universal human condition that silently kills dreams more dreams than anything else. Yet you and I don’t have to accept this dream killer. We can all overcome the feeling and move powerfully towards our goals and dreams. It starts with intention. The intention to live on your terms, not the terms of your moods and feelings.
Next time you say to yourself, “I don’t feel like it,” consider this 4-step guide to snap out of that feeling and make a choice for action.
Step 1: Put Your Body In Motion
Emotion is created by motion. In other words, emotions are linked to movement in our bodies. Think about it: observe your posture when you are slouching, or happy, as opposed to when you are sad. Or what you look like when you are angry, versus when you are elated. Our mothers were correct; proper posture means more than just looking good.
Try this little experiment, right now: stand up, smile and raise your hands above your head and say, “yes, yes, yes!” Did your mood change? When you are low on energy, I’ve found movement, any type of movement simply getting the body in motion helps. Walk around your office building, if you’re sitting stand up, rub your hands together rapidly. Movement and breathing can change your energy level quickly.
Step 2: Hydrate More
Dehydration is one of the most common preventable medical conditions in the world, and yet it affects millions. For something so common, most of us are unaware of its dangers.
CBS reports nearly 75% of us simply don’t drink enough water. 10 cups per day is prescribed by the institute of medicine. When you function daily in a chronic and persistent state of dehydration, you lose focus, you lose energy, you lose your attention span, and you increase irritability quotient. Simply drink more water.
Step 3: Accept Your Emotional Level Then Redirect
Whatever you are feeling, permit yourself to feel that way. Instead of denying the reality of your feelings, acknowledge them. Consider sitting with them for a moment and then make an active decision to regroup. What’s that famous quote? “You can’t stop the birds from flying around your head, yet you can stop them from making a nest.”
Accept, reflect, then redirect.
Step 4: Take Action Towards Your Intention
Instead of listening to “I don’t feel like it,” now you are in a position to take a different action. To overcome your feelings and move towards your dreams. In business and life, you state your goals and plot your course for reaching them. However, there will be many days when you don’t feel like doing the work yet go ahead and do it anyway. “Feeling like it” is not a pre-requisite.
Final thought: who’s in charge, you or your feelings?