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I Hear It Almost Daily From Someone, “I’m overwhelmed!”

I Hear It Almost Daily From Someone, “I’m overwhelmed!”

Our work lives have become more demanding, presenting us with more complex challenges at a relentless pace. Add in your personal needs, family needs, and other commitments, and it’s easy to feel always overwhelmed. For most of us, the typical response to growing workloads is to work harder and put in longer hours, rather than to step back and examine and find a new way of operating. 

The cognitive impact of feeling overwhelmed continuously can range from mental slowness, forgetfulness, confusion, difficulty concentrating, or thinking logically, to a racing mind or an impaired ability to problem solve. When we have too many demands over an extended period of time, cognitive fatigue kicks in. The effect makes us less productive and leaves us feeling even more overwhelmed. 

If you are feeling overwhelmed, here are some key strategies to try:

Simply Stop. 

Have the courage to stop what you’re doing. Give yourself the time and space to slow down, so you can see the bigger picture and get a handle on things. Regather yourself. Center yourself so that you have the energy to make wiser, healthier decisions.

Get clear on your priorities. 

Taking time to contemplate your priorities is key to having focused flow. What’s most important to you right now? How do you want to run your business and live your life on a day-to-day basis? Look at the bigger picture and how you want to spend your time and energy. 

Let go 

Lin Yutang said, “besides the noble art of getting things done, there is the noble art of leaving things undone. The wisdom in business consists in the elimination of nonessentials.” What don’t you need to do? What can you automate, delegate, or eliminate? 

Commit to less. 

Having too much to do often has to do with unrealistic goal setting and over-committing your time and energy. Are you overly ambitious? Are you not being realistic about your goals and what you can do?

Say NO more often.

People who are overwhelmed spread their energy too thinly. Often, it’s hard for them to say “no” because they fear disappointing others. When you feel scattered and pulled apart in a lot of different directions, are you willing to pull yourself back in and say “no” to others? Are you ready to get more comfortable saying no?

Limit yourself. 

Be willing to focus on just a few things at a time. Put limits on certain activities that aren’t important. By limiting your time and energy for specific endeavors, and not allowing yourself to get lost in the day-to-day, you can create more time and space in your life. Limit the number of emails, FB time, talk time, any activities that consume the unproductive time in your life. The paradox is that by creating more discipline and limitation in your life, you create greater freedom.

Re-imagine a new schedule.

Imagine a new lifestyle from scratch. If you made your business effectiveness, health, and happiness a priority, what would a perfect day look like? What would an ideal week look like?’ 

Being overwhelmed is not a fact — it’s a state of consciousness that limits your freedom and happiness. It requires a shift in perspective. Often, when you’re feeling overwhelmed, you’re over-thinking everything that needs to get done. You’ve lost yourself, and you’re no longer present. 

Instead of seeing the things outside of you having power over you, be willing to stop and regather yourself. Bring yourself back to the present moment. Remember that you have a choice about the way you want to feel.

 

 

The Inspiration Equation

The Inspiration Equation

From John Maxwell. Use the “Inspiration Equation” to connect.  This equation has three elements:

1.     What People Need to Know.

Show others that you are on their side and care about them, that they matter to you, and that you expect significant things from them.

2.     What People Need to See.

Demonstrate your conviction, character, and credibility concerning your area of expertise.

3.     What People Need to Feel.

Be confident and passionate about your subject matter. Demonstrate your gratitude for allowing those around you to share in your passion.

When you first meet someone, how you communicate makes all the difference. Once someone knows you, credibility will become the most vital factor in maintaining your bonds with them.

What To Do When You Don’t Know What To Do?

What To Do When You Don’t Know What To Do?

Because of work pressure and the need to produce results, it’s easy to get overwhelmed. That feeling can easily produce uncertainty. You become afraid to act and instead, it’s easy to worry and spend an inordinate amount of time thinking through worst-case scenarios—something I am pretty good at.

If you are in a situation where you feel overwhelmed and don’t know what course to take, “just do the next right thing.”

Michael Hyatt, shares three steps to consider in just doing the “next right thing.”

1. Forget about the ultimate outcome. The truth is you have less control over the outcome than you think. You can undoubtedly influence it, but you can’t control it. Besides, before you ever get to the final destination, many of the variables will change. Projects and deals have a way of unfolding over time. There will be problems—and resources—you can’t see now.

2. Instead, focus on the next right action. Since worrying about the outcome is unproductive,  try to think about the next actions that will move you forward. This is far more accessible than something in the distant future. For example, as a writer, I can worry about whether or not my book will become a bestseller or I can make sure that I am fully prepped for the interview I have scheduled today.

3. And do something now! This is key. Something is better than nothing. Too often, we think that we have to have clarity about how it will all turn out. In my experience, I rarely have this. But, as I move toward the destination, making course corrections as necessary, I experience clarity. Therefore, it is important to get off the sidelines and into the game.

From Michael Hyatt’s blog. His advice is typically concise and concrete.  I don’t know about you, but I tend to become paralyzed in these situations. But, not anymore…