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A Business And A Life Without Limits!

A Business And A Life Without Limits!

“If you can’t get a miracle, become one.” ~ Nick 

Imagine getting through your busy day without hands or legs. Picture your life without the ability to walk, care for your basic needs, or even embrace those you love. Meet Nicholas Vujicic.

In 1982 Nick was born without arms and legs and given no medical explanation for his condition. Faced with countless challenges and obstacles, God has given Nick the strength to surmount what others might call impossible.

It was my honor to introduce Nick to our team recently, and here is a snapshot of five of the seven highlights from his message:

Everything starts with an attitude of gratitude 

What was that Abraham Lincoln quote? “Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.” So true, today, I am grateful for those of you that share with me how these blogs or video articles made a difference in your business.

Accept ourselves for who we are 

For Nick, the early days were difficult. Throughout his childhood, Nick not only dealt with the typical challenges of school and adolescence, but he also struggled with depression and loneliness. Nick always wondered why he was different than all the other kids. He questioned the purpose of life, or if he even had a purpose.

    • Accept the reality
    • Accept others for who they are
    • Find your purpose
    • Take action

Think like a winner… think big ACT bigger  

Nick’s dad used to say: “you weren’t given arms and legs, but you were given a brain. Hire employees so that they can be your arms and legs.” Despite his disability and being bullied at school, Vujicic threw himself into being an entrepreneur at a young age. His first job, in which he earned A$1 an hour was to vacuum the floor, a skill he managed using his shoulder and chin.

“Don’t give up. And know that there is always someone out there who believes in you and who loves you just the way that you are.” ~Nick Vujicic

Motivation is temporary, inspiration and discipline has staying power 

Motivation alone is unreliable. It is momentary, unpredictable, and can depart as quickly as it enters. Think about it:

When you listen to a motivational speech, there is an emotional response that is created by an understanding. However, the emotional response wears off, and we fail to revisit the agreement, which incited the emotional response and all the good things that came with it. Thus, we become “unmotivated” until we are reminded again. Sound familiar?

Do you know how to get out of it? Just do the work. It doesn’t matter how you feel at the time; just do it. Don’t wait until you feel motivated. You will build momentum, and eventually, you will get inspired. Ignore inspiration — if it’s there, great. Use it. If it’s not, act anyway.

Don’t feel like going to the gym? Just go.

If you have writer’s block, then write.

Just don’t wait.

Don’t wait for the right moment.

Don’t depend on luck.

Fear is just a challenge to overcome 

There is healthy fear… don’t touch that hot stove! And there is limiting fear… in the case I’m writing about today – limiting fear is just “False Evidence Appearing Real!”

In the type of limiting fear, I’m talking about:

  • Fear sees only the downside
  • Fear doesn’t let you stop to think it through
  • Fear tells us to avoid anything new or unknown
  • Fear constricts rather than expands who we are
  • Fear obscures your intuition
  • Fear often keeps us from making any decision at all

I’m so grateful for Nick and his message; I’ll leave you with this exercise Nick had our team complete on the spot. Do it now, don’t wait!

A quick exercise:

  • What is your goal? Financially, spiritually, physically, relationally?
  • Define it specifically. X by Y date by doing these Z daily activities.

– Win the day, win the week, win the month

  • List obstacles?

– Define a plan to overcome your obstacles

– Take action NOW

 

Tired Of Not Getting What You Want?

Tired Of Not Getting What You Want?

Ever wonder why so many of us have to hit rock bottom before we find a breakthrough?

Let me explain… from working with others I’ve discovered a pattern. Typically after a huge disappointment, fear of failure disappears. When fear of failure disappears taking a positive action becomes easier, yes!?

Once a major low is hit, the realization that any action that is taken must lead to something better. Think about that for a moment… “any positive action taken leads to something better!” Make sense?

The Problem.

Waiting for a major breakdown to get to a breakthrough.

  • Maybe you’re satisfied with mediocrity?
  • Maybe you believe you will fail and subject to the opinion of others? 
  • Maybe you are addicted to worry; the past or to drama?
  • Maybe you let overwhelm and distractions get in the way instead of taking the next right action.
  • Maybe you succumb too often to those 5 words that kill more dreams than any other: “I don’t feel like it!”

For the vast majority of folks I’ve worked with, the answer to the question, “why don’t you do what you have to do to get what you want?” Can be summarized in 5 dream killing words:

I don’t feel like it!

And that feeling stops you from taking positive action, keeps you from being consistent. It’s the one reason you’re not getting what you want. Your feelings overpower your commitment. Your feelings overpower your ability to take positive action.

The Solution.

Act opposite your feelings.

The story of Mario Lemieux:

There are many athletes who have played through or returned from life-threatening illnesses. Others have come back from debilitating injuries that would have forced mere mortals to give the game up.

And then there is Mario Lemieux, who not only suffered from Hodgkin’s lymphoma but also endured chronic back pain throughout his career.

With his puck-handling dexterity, long reach and accurate shot, Lemieux won three Most Valuable Player awards in the NHL and six times was its leading scorer.

Lemieux is the only player to average more than two points a game (2.01). His goal-scoring percentage of .823 (613 goals in 745 games) is the best for players with 150 games.

I know there where many times Mario “didn’t feel like it” yet his commitment was greater than his feelings.

When your commitments overpower your feelings that’s when breakthroughs begin.

When you take action despite your feelings that’s when breakthroughs begin.

So whose in charge YOU or your feelings?

If Information Was Enough…

If Information Was Enough…

If information was enough, we would all be top performers in our profession, exercise every day, eat more vegetables, be within the government height and weight standard, and have a ton of money saved for the future.

Think about it… you can Google or YouTube the instruction manual for just about anything. You can access a step-by-step guide; the best practices and the quick start guide. So, I have one simple question – with access to all this information and proven evidence, why do we still struggle with limiting beliefs and behaviors?

The answer… our feelings outweigh our commitments. When our commitments outweigh our feelings, that’s when a breakthrough begins.

You see, the 5 words that kill more dreams, more potential and more happiness than any other 5 words spoken: “I don’t feel like it.

I’m not sure of your dream, yet I suspect for many of you it’s more financial freedom, better health, stronger relationships and more connectedness with your community. Yet let’s face it, so many times when you are about to start something toward those dreams the onslaught of excuses flood your mind like water gushing out of a broken pipe. The theme of these excuses always traces back to the same root… “I don’t feel like it.”

How many times have you said, “I don’t feel like it?”  How many times have you listened to that thought, allowing it to alter the course of your actions? What has that cost you physically, financially, emotionally? What if you could make a different choice?

Here is what I know, “I don’t feel like it” is the universal human condition that silently kills dreams. Yet you and I don’t have to accept this dream killer. We can all overcome the feeling and move powerfully towards our goals and dreams. It starts with intention… the intention to live on your terms not the terms of your moods and feelings.

Read more about the 4 steps you can take right now in my blog, the silent dream killer.

See if coaching is right for you, speak with us at www.jparcoaching.com

 

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